Sunday, 15 January 2012

Truth and Light

It has been a while since I have posted or submitted anything so I though I should take it back to basics. No filters, no photoshop, just me and natural light. 

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Tuesday, 10 January 2012

BDSM Checklist

This checklist can be filled out by a Sub and provided to their Dom/Top before playing with them. This will provide a quick "head-start" to identifying limits, negotiating and finding common ground for play.  Dominants may wish to work through the checklist, to get a better handle on their specific interests. Switches should go through the checklist twice; one persons Dom and Sub interests may be very different.

For each item, you need to provide two answers:
Have you had real time experience with the activity? 
Indicate YES or NO next to each item. Write N/A if it does not apply to your gender.
Are you willing/open to try an activity?
For each item, indicate the degree to which you are willing to try that particular activity by rating it on a scale of NO or 0-5 (see rating scale below).
If you write "no", it means you will not do that item under any circumstance (a hard limit). There is nothing wrong with indicating 'no' on an item. However, if you write 'no' next to every item, you should probably find another interest to pursue.... like knitting or basket weaving. *grin*
If you do not understand what an activity is, mark that item with a "?".
Mark with an asterisk (*) those items which you are willing to do only with your current sex partner(s), but not with casual play partners
Rating Scale

0Utterly no desire to do that activity and don’t like doing it (in fact, may loath it) and ordinarily would object to doing it, but you would permit the Dominant to do it if they really wanted it (sometimes called a soft limit)
1Don’t want to do or like to do this activity, but wouldn’t object it if was asked of you
2Willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you
3Usually like doing this activity, at least on an irregular/occasional basis
4You like doing this activity and would like to experience it on a regular basis
5Is a wild turn-on for you and you would like it as often as possible
Note any additional information or nuances which might be important for your Dom to know in the comments section.
There is intentionally some overlap between categories. Unless otherwise stated, the sub is the recipient/target of the activity

Respond YES/NO
Rate according to scale described above
Abrasion no ?
Age Playno  no
Anal Sex yes 4
Anal Plugs (small) yes 4
Anal Plugs (large) yes
Anal Plug (public under clothes) no 3 I have yet to try this, I do love the idea of it though!!
Animal Roles no no
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders) no 4
Aromas no 2
Asphyxiation yes 3
Auctioned for charity no no
Ball Stretching n/a n/a
Bathroom use control no no
Beastiality no no
Beating (soft) yes 4
Beating (hard)no 4
Blindfolding yes 5
Being Serviced (sexual) yes 4 mmm so hot
Being bitten yes 5 I love the feeling of teeth sinking into my flesh, and mine sinking into someones flesh
Breast/chest bondage no 3 I think this would depend on my mood
Breath control yes 4
Branding no no
Boot Worship no 2
Bondage (light) yes 4
Bondage (heavy) no 4 I really need to expand my skills in this area
Bondage (multi-day) no 4
Bondage (public under clothing) no 3
Breast whipping no 3 not too hard though
Brown showers (scat) no NO
Cages (locked inside) no 2
Caning yes 4
Castration fantasy n/a n/a
Catheterization no no
Cattle prod (electrical toy) no no
Cells/Closets (locked inside of) no 2 *shrugs* why not?
Chains no 4
Chamber pot use no no
Chastity belts no 2 maybe?
Chauffeuring no ?
Choking yes 4
Chores (domestic service) no 1
Clothespins no 4 yet another thing I need to try!!!
Cock rings/straps n/a n/a (3) although I would like to try this on someone
Cock worship yes 4
Collars (worn in private) yes 5
Collars (worn in public) yes 5
Competitions (with other subs) no 3
Corsets (wearing casually) yes 5
Corsets (trained waist reduction) no 2
Cuffs (leather) yes 5
Cuffs (metal) no 5 I need more money to buy some!!
Cutting yes 4 I do so love the taste of blood
Diapers (wearing) no no
Diapers (wetting) no no
Diapers (soiling) no no
Dilation ?? ?
Dildos yes 5
Double Penetration yes 4 I have only experienced this with dildo
Electricity yes 4
Enemas (for cleansing) no 3 I have been thinking of buying one recently
Enemas ( retention/punishment) no no
Enforced chastity yes 2-3 the end result orgasm is the fun part
Erotic Dance (for audience) no 3
Examinations (physical) no 3
Exercise (forced/required) no no
Exhibitionism (friends) yes 4 teehee
Exhibitionism (strangers) no 4 see above :p
Eye contact restrictions no 4 this could be very hot
Face Slapping no 3 not too hard though
Fantasy Abandonment no4
Fantasy rape yes 3
Fantasy gang rape no 3 this is one of my random fantasies... not sure I would ever fulfil it though
Fear (being scared) no no
Fisting (anal) no 3 maybe??
Fisting (vaginal) yes 4
Flame play yes 4
Following orders yes 4 I tend to be naughty though
Foot worship no 3 eh why not?
Forced bedwetting no no
forced dressing no no
Forced eating no no
Forced homosexuality no no
Forced heterosexuality no no
Forced masturbation no 3 ooh this could be fun!
Forced nudity (private) no 4
Forced nudity (around others) no 3
Forced Servitude no 4
Forced smoking no no
Full head hoods no 2 maybe?
Gags (cloth) yes 5
Gags (inflatable) no 3
Gags (phallic) no 4
Gags (rubber) no no
Gags (tape) yes 5
Gas masks no 3 I would rather see someone wearing one than wear one myself
Gates of Hell (male) n/a ?
Genital sex yes 5 YES PLEASE!!
Given away to another Dom (temp) no 3
Given away to another Dom (perm) no no
Golden Showers no NO
Gun play no um no
Hair brush spankings yes 4
Hair pulling yes 5
Hand Jobs (giving) yes 5
Hand Jobs (receiving) n/a n/a
Harems (serving w/other subs) no 3 sounds like fun
Harnessing (leather) no 3
Harnessing (rope) no 3
Having food chosen for you no no
Having clothing chosen for you no no
(head (give fellatio/cunnilingus) yes 5 yummy
Head (rcv fellation/cunnilingus) yes 5 mmmmm yes please
High Heel Wearing yes 2 eh why not?
High Heel Worship no 2 see above
Homage with tongue (non-sexual) yes 5
Hoods no 3
Hot oils (on genitals) no 3
Hot waxing yes 2
Housework (doing) no no blegh i hate housework
Human puppy dog no no
Humiliation (private) no 3
Humiliation (public) no 3
Hypnotism no 3
Ice cubes yes 5
Immobilization yes 5
Infantilism no no
Initiation rites no 2 yeah why not
Injections no no
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage no 5 oh god I want to try this!!
Interrogations no 2
Kidnapping no 3
Kneeling yes 4
Knife play yes 3
Leather Clothing no 5
Leather restraints yes 5
Lectures for misbehavior yes 3
Licking (non-sexual) yes 5
Lingerie (wearing) yes 5
Manacles and Irons no 4
Manicures (giving) no 2
Massage (giving) yes
Massage (receiving) yes 4
Medical scenes no 3 this is something I would like to try/be taught how to do
Modeling for erotic photos yes 4
Mouth bits no no
Mummification no no
Name change (for scene) no no
Nipple clamps yes 5
Nipple rings (piercing) no 4
Nipple weights no 5
Oral/anal play (rimming) yes 5
Over the knee spanking yes 4
Orgasm denial yes 4
Orgasm control yes 4
Outdoor scenes no 4
Pain (severe) no 4
Pain (mild) yes 5
Persona training (in scene) no 2
Personal modification (rl) no no
Phone sex (serving Dom) yes 3
Phone sex (serving Dom’s friends) no no
Phone sex (commercial provider) no no
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce) no 3
Piercing (permanent) no 3
Plastic surgery no no
Prison scenes no 3
Prostitution (public pretense) no 3
Prostitution (actual) no no
Pony slave no no
Public exposure yes 3
Punishment scene yes 3
Pussy/cock whipping no 3 eep maybe?? 
Pussy worship yes 4
Riding crops yes 4
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort) no no
Rituals no 2
Religious scenes no 3
Restrictive rules on behavior no 3
Rubber/latex clothing yes 5
Rope body harness no 3
Saran wrap no ?
Scarification no 3
Scratching - getting yes 4
Scratching - giving yes 4
Sensory deprivation yes 3
Serving yes 3
Serving as art no 2
Serving as ashtray no no
Serving as furniture no 2
Serving as a maid no 3
Serving as a toilet (urine) no no
Serving as a toilet (feces) no NO
Serving as waitress/waiter no 2
Serving orally (sexual) yes 5
Serving other Doms (supervised) no 3
Serving other Doms (unsupervised) no 3
Sexual deprivation (short term) no 3
Sexual deprivation (long term) no 3
Shaving (body hair) yes 3
Shaving (head hair) no no
Skinny dipping yes 4
Sleep deprivation no NO
Sleep sacks no no
Slutty clothing (private) yes 5
Slutty clothing (public) yes 5
Spandex clothing no no blegh spandex
Spanking yes 5
Speech restrictions (when/what) no 3
Speculums (anal) no 3 maybe?
Speculums (vaginal) no 3 maybe?
Spitting no no
Spreader bars no 5 I NEED SOME OF THESE
Standing in corner no 3
Stocks no 2
Straight jackets no 2
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on) yes 4
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by) yes 5
Strap-on-dildos (wearing) yes 5
Strapping (full body beating) no 3
Suspension (upright) no 3
Suspension (inverted) no 3
Supplying new partners for Dom no 2
Swallowing feces no NO
Swallowing semen yes 5 yummy
Swallowing urine no NO
Swapping (with one other couple) no 4 sounds like fun to me
Swinging (multiple couples) no 2
Tampon training (in ass) no no
Tattooing on 4
Teasing yes 5
TENS unit (electrical toy) yes 3
Thumb cuffs (metal) no 2
Tickling no 2
Triple Penetration no 3
Urethral Sounds (metal rods) no no
Uniforms no 3
Including others yes 4
Vaginal dildo yes 5
Verbal humiliation no 3
Vibrator on genitals yes 5
Violet wand (electrical toy) no 4 I want one!!
Voyeurism (watching others) yes 3
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others) no 3
Video (watching others) no 3
Video (recordings of you) no 3
Water torture no no
Waxing (hair removal) no no
Wearing symbolic jewelry yes 3
Weight gain (forced) no no
Weight loss (forced) no no
Whipping yes 5 please?
Wooden paddles yes 5 YES!
Wrestling no 2 eh maybe?